Archive for November, 2011


Clementines are one of Xander’s new favorite foods.  He is always asking to eat one and has been know to eat 2 for a snack on some days.  The last bag we got seems to have a few that are on the sour side.  Check out Xander’s reaction to the sour slices :)

3 Months Forever & 4 Weeks Post Surgery

Today Xander has been with his forever family for 3 months.  I have to admit it feels like it’s been so much longer.  A lot has happened in the last 3 months, wow!  I guess my main thought right now at this milestone is just that I really can’t believe he hasn’t always been with us and that (this may sound weird) I didn’t actually give birth to him.  I love him so much and he fits into our family so well.  I look at him and all I see is my son.  I am so proud of him for so many reasons and it’s now strange to think that there is another woman out there who is also his mother.  I wish she could know how well he’s doing and see his new beautiful face and smile.

Tomorrow we will be 4 weeks post surgery.  Yesterday we went back to Children’s to see Dr. Gordon, Xander’s plastic surgeon.   Xander wasn’t happy to be back at the hospital and really lost it when he saw the translator again.  However between Patrick & I and the translator we were able to convince Xander we were just there for the doctor to take a look and then we would go home.   Dr. Gordon thought everything was looking good and gave us a huge surprise when he said we could take the nostril retainers out.  Yay!  We’ll go back again in January and at that point they’ll take a good look at the palate and see if there are any holes.  But for now we are looking good and Xander is now allowed to feed himself with a spoon and use a sippy cup again.  Last night he ate a ton of food and enjoyed drinking from his cars sippy cup again.

I haven’t gotten any really good pictures of him yet but here is a glance at his “new” face/smile.

The before surgery shot.

After surgery, looking good :)

Eating lunch, fried rice yum!

Our sweet boy!

IT’S A HELICOPTER… and santa

Today Santa arrived at Northgate mall via helicopter.  Ariel and the Colerain marching band were there to greet Santa along with a few hundred kids.   Last year was the 1st year Patrick and I had been to this event and we thought it was great.  I remember thinking last year how much fun it would be to come to this once our new son or daughter was home.   It was so much fun this morning to see Ariel march and have Xander with us.

As we were eating breakfast I told Xander we were going to go and see a helicopter this morning when we were done.  He LOVES planes and helicopters right now and as soon as he heard we were going to see one he was done with breakfast.  He grabbed his toy plane and helicopter and wanted to head into the backyard to see the helicopter.  I tried to explain we needed to get dressed and then go in the car to see the helicopter.  Xander was so impatient… once dressed he was at the front door (still with his plane & helicopter in his hand) wanting to leave even though Ariel wasn’t ready yet.

Xander LOVED seeing the helicopter fly up to the mall and land.  He could have cared less about the old guy in the red suit.  All he said over and over again was “helicopter.”  In fact we got right up next to the railing and Santa walked right by us and Xander just leaned over so he could see the helicopter :)

The band sounded awesome and it was so much fun to see them march through the mall again leading Santa.  After everything was done we got a few pictures of Ariel and Xander in front of the Christmas tree at the mall.  It was a great morning and I’ll never forget Xander’s face when he saw that helicopter come in to land.

Xander in the car ready to see a helicopter.

Waiting for the helicopter (and Santa) to arrive.

Xander and the helicopter :)

Xander wasn’t really happy to have to look at us to take this picture.  He really wanted to be staring at his beloved helicopter :)

Brother & Sister

Our beautiful band girl!

Ariel and her boyfriend Cody

When we got home Xander decided to try on all the Santa hats that Ariel had gotten out for the parade.  He loved the Santa hats and thought they were so funny.  His favorite was the Bengal hat and he wore it for the next several hours :)

I've got a Santa hat on!!!

Playing with his Santa hat on.

Lifting the hat up so he could check out the neighbor mowing the grass.

Riding his bike and yes his eyes are covered but he didn't want the hat lifted up at all!

3 Week Post Surgery

Today marks 3 weeks post surgery.  Xander is doing really well.  The last 2 nights he and I slept all night long with no wake ups!  Yay!  His face is also beginning to look really good.  The surgeon has done a great job and so far it’s looking great.  We’ve also master getting the nostril retainers to stay in so they are not too much of a pain right now.  Here are a few pictures I took yesterday.  Enjoy!

Looking good and the smile is slowly coming back :)

Happy Halloween!

Halloween turned out great here at the McCoy house!  Ariel made it home from play practice and still had time to go trick-or-treating with her friends.  Patrick and I managed to come up with costumes at the last minuet.  And Xander had a blast and totally embraced the Halloween experience :)   Xander helped me pass out candy at 1st and then he and I went trick-or-treating on our street.  By the 2nd house he had the hang of what to do.  He was so cute… at one point he was running between houses and loved holding his candy bucket.  However, I think for Xander the biggest excitement of the night wasn’t the candy but seeing everyone’s cars parked in the driveway.  Our boy sure loves cars and trucks.  At the end of the night Grandma, Grandpa, and Aunt Ree came by to see everyone’s costumes.  It was a great night!

Schubie was a pumpkin this year.

Xander is all ready for trick-or-treating

Patrick "the mummy" is ready for the festivities to begin.

Xander walking to the next house... trick-or-treat is fun!

We meet up with friends along the way!

Xander and Baba hand out candy and eat some too :)

Ariel and her friends

Ariel and Patrick

Xander watches as the big kids sort and trade their candy

Family picture with Grandma (the clown)

Adoption Timeline
  • Summer 2010 - started talking about adoption
  • Aug 19, 2010 - participated in webinar
  • Sep 22, 2010 - mailed in adoption application
  • Sep 28, 2010 - adoption application accepted
  • Oct 8, 2010 - fingerprints for home study
  • Oct 14, 2010 - fire inspection done
  • Oct 25, 2010 - Patrick & Kimberly complete physicals for the adoption
  • Nov 4, 2010 - finished Heart of the Matters Parent Education
  • Nov 9, 2010 - Ariel's physical is completed
  • Nov 15, 2010 - 1st Home Study Visit
  • Dec 10, 2010 - Kimberly's Individual Interview with Social Worker
  • Dec 16, 2010 - Patrick & Ariel's Individual Interview with Social Worker
  • Dec 19, 2010 - Received rough draft of Home Study to review
  • Jan 7, 2011 - Received Final Home Study
  • Jan 7, 2011 - Sent I800A form into USCIS
  • Jan 18, 2011 - We see our son's face for the 1st time!
  • Jan 21, 2011 - Submit Letter of Intent to China
  • Jan 27, 2011 - Receive Pre-Approval from China
  • March 7, 2011 - I800a approval
  • March 24, 2011 - Dossier to China
  • April 2, 2011 - Log In Date
  • May 16, 2011 - LOA
  • June 2, 2011 - I800 Approval
  • June 10, 2011 - Cable sent by National Visa Center
  • June 13, 2011 - NVC Letter & final paper work sent to Agency!!!!
  • June 23, 2011 - Article 5 papers dropped off
  • July 8, 2011 - Article 5 pick up
  • July 19, 2011 - Travel Approval!!!!!!
  • August 15, 2011 - Forever Family Day!!!!!!
  • August 25, 2011 - Arrive home; Xander becomes a US citizen :)