Picking a Name…

Before we got a referral we had always hoped that we would be able to just keep our child’s name as their Chinese name, however, we also knew that some Chinese names would be difficult to say.  Then we got our referral and soon learned that saying Zi Xuan correctly is very difficult for us westerners.  So we set out as a family (Patrick, Ariel, and I) to pick an American 1st name for our little guy.

Patrick is the master of spreed sheets and soon there was an excel spread sheet on our computer that was beginning to compile all the names we each liked.  There were really no rules, anyone could add a name to the list and it would be considered.  This went on for about 3 weeks and we created a list of 40 names.

We decided that we’d narrow the list down by each of us picking our top 5 names.  We all took a day or 2 to think about our favorite names and on Valentines Day we each sat down and blindly picked (meaning we couldn’t see what anyone else picked)  our top 5 names.  When we did this we also got to veto 2 names off the list which meant those names were now out of the running.  After we revealed the results of this round we were left with 12 names.  We then each had the opportunity to veto 1 more name off of the list which brought us down to 9 names.

At that point we thought about just stopping for the night and not making any more decisions.  But after we talked about the 9 names left each of us knew what our top 3 names were  so we decided to go ahead and each pick our top 3 and see what would happen.  The results after we each picked our top 3 names were:

2 names with 1 vote each

2 names with 2 votes each

And 1 name with 3 votes!

I couldn’t believe it… we had a name that all 3 of us liked and voted for!  We talked about the name for a little while longer and decided we’d live with the name for a week and see if we all still liked it.  After a week of using this name we all decided this was the name!  So we are happy to introduce you to our son…

Xander Zi-Xuan McCoy



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Adoption Timeline
  • Summer 2010 - started talking about adoption
  • Aug 19, 2010 - participated in webinar
  • Sep 22, 2010 - mailed in adoption application
  • Sep 28, 2010 - adoption application accepted
  • Oct 8, 2010 - fingerprints for home study
  • Oct 14, 2010 - fire inspection done
  • Oct 25, 2010 - Patrick & Kimberly complete physicals for the adoption
  • Nov 4, 2010 - finished Heart of the Matters Parent Education
  • Nov 9, 2010 - Ariel's physical is completed
  • Nov 15, 2010 - 1st Home Study Visit
  • Dec 10, 2010 - Kimberly's Individual Interview with Social Worker
  • Dec 16, 2010 - Patrick & Ariel's Individual Interview with Social Worker
  • Dec 19, 2010 - Received rough draft of Home Study to review
  • Jan 7, 2011 - Received Final Home Study
  • Jan 7, 2011 - Sent I800A form into USCIS
  • Jan 18, 2011 - We see our son's face for the 1st time!
  • Jan 21, 2011 - Submit Letter of Intent to China
  • Jan 27, 2011 - Receive Pre-Approval from China
  • March 7, 2011 - I800a approval
  • March 24, 2011 - Dossier to China
  • April 2, 2011 - Log In Date
  • May 16, 2011 - LOA
  • June 2, 2011 - I800 Approval
  • June 10, 2011 - Cable sent by National Visa Center
  • June 13, 2011 - NVC Letter & final paper work sent to Agency!!!!
  • June 23, 2011 - Article 5 papers dropped off
  • July 8, 2011 - Article 5 pick up
  • July 19, 2011 - Travel Approval!!!!!!
  • August 15, 2011 - Forever Family Day!!!!!!
  • August 25, 2011 - Arrive home; Xander becomes a US citizen :)